...and another horror story

And here's case when a "primary care giver" father was ruthlessly excluded. ....

I just wanted to share this with all members and readers.

I am a single father, now of 38 years of age.

I have a daughter of 15 of which 11 years I have been denied access to her or even her location. Even though I took out various orders through the joke which is called the family law court.

When myself and my ex split she told child welfare services that I beat her so she could get assistance to move out whilst I was at work stealing my daughter in the process.

I am a loving father and the whole small town of around 500 people in which we lived was appalled at what had happened as it’s a small town and everybody knows everybody.

As I was the one that was her primary care giver when myself and the ex were together..That’s right I changed nappies. fed her..clothed her..everything you image a mother does I did as her mother was not the least bit interested in her welfare or life.

Her mother was more interested in doing nothing all day like watching movies and gambling. There were lots of days where I would come home from work and she had not even been fed or changed etc etc.

Unknown to me she took my daughter so she could get over half of my monthly wage to gamble and god only knows what else. Unknown to me she then dumped my daughter with her grandparents for 11 years and continued to receive child support, none of which the grandparents received.

By chance I saw her grandfather walking in the street in Perth just recently. He then started crying and apologizing for what had happened as he knows that his daughter (my daughter’s mother) is not fit to be a parent. I raised this point early on in the court and with CSA to which they laughed in my face without even meeting my ex.

As the whole of her own family knows that she is not a fit parent, my disgust at the system was apparent and still is. Its all about the welfare of the children until it affects the mother it seems.

All I ever asked for was a fair go and if the court system or CSA had listened and met us the outcome would be far different I would hope.

Anyway the grandfather arranged a meeting between me and my daughter behind the mothers back as she decided a few months before I found them that she needed my daughter to look after her kids from another relationship which were also neglected for years.

I met my daughter and it was an emotional and joyous time as you could imagine. My daughter then proceeds to tell me that she was placed in quite a few dangerous situations by her mother for the few years that she had her anyway, which I wont go into here.

Anyway needless to say that my daughter found out about the 11 years of lies and deceit that her mother was responsible for as told to her by her mothers own family (not me)and the kid hates her own mother with a passion, which may be justified but sad to see.

As I write this my daughter has moved in with me and we are looking at a new school for her and sorting out what she wants to do with her life. She has an IQ that is in the top ranges and tells me she wants to be a lawyer, probably in the family law court or similar ;)

I have had the chance to be reunited my my daughter through chance, and the system got it horribly wrong in my case and thousands of others that’s for sure. I even had someone at child support apologize to me if you can believe that as she had met both me and my ex.

I will never get those years back with my daughter, but I am luckier than most in the fact that I survived and did not kill myself as thousands of others in Australia have done.

I had just about given my hope of seeing my baby again, and would like to extend my wishes to all good single fathers..yes that’s right..there are lots of good ones and say to them that their kids will find out the truth in the end and eventually change the law themselves as its hurts the child as much as the single father to be without each other. And without each other I mean the biological father as this makes all the difference to the child no matter what mothers or anybody else may say.

Regards,

Richard

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